“You never know beforehand what people are capable of, you have to wait, give it time, it’s time that rules, time is our gambling partner on the other side of the table and it holds all the cards of the deck in its hand, we have to guess the winning cards of life, our lives.” – José Saramago
Thursday, July 17th
We lose touch with people over time. You might think those people weren’t worth keeping in touch with, or maybe you simply lost touch. You got busy with work and your partner and your kids and trying to have fun in between, and you just lost touch.
Today the family and I walked downtown to one of my favorite cities – Victoria, British Columbia. I went to university here, and spent a good deal of my adult life figuring things out here. I have made it a habit to stop by the storefront I used to work at and visit the proprietor and one remaining co-worker. They were pivotal in helping me to feel confident enough to strike out of the city to try something new 14 years ago.
I coaxed the owner out of the back room where she was doing the books. It was a job that her husband had always managed. Somewhere in conversation she asked if I knew that he had suffered from a stroke two years back. No! It felt that it wasn’t possible that this had happened. Incongruent, to say the least. The last I had heard, he had been training with the Coast Guard to be a volunteer and had been captaining a whale watching tour boat. He is tall and good looking, and has always been the picture of lively and active living. Fortunately, he had been working through the physical challenges to get muscular control back and regain the confidence to speak in front of others. They are a strong couple with a loving partnership, so they have worked out the ways to best challenge and accommodate him and move on.
It has been a not-so-subtle reminder to sit down and be honest about who I want to keep in touch with. It isn’t enough to be friends on Facebook because there are things that people simply will not share online. I want to be someone who is there to support my loved ones near and far.
Are you in communication with the right people?